Dreamcatcher

Here's Chris with his own dreamcatcher. I've had to educate myself about them, and have discovered that good dreams go through the middle hole in the catcher while the bad dreams get caught in the web and perish in the dawn. On a more prosaic note, Chris is the first U-Too dad who, along with his partner Laura, has been taking the Level 2 Parents With Prospects course. He and Laura have both completed the first two units of the course and have nearly finished Unit 3. Great stuff!

Birthday boy

I just happened to be visiting Will, Rorie and Connor yesterday on Connor's first birthday. so a photo was clearly needed for the family album. Connor had a minor operation recently at Frenchay Hospital in Bristol. He seems none the worse for it.

End of an era

Carolyn and I have decided to retire because we're rather ancient. We wanted to find a way of seeing U-Too's work continue and were pleased that a charity, Learning Curve, based in Melksham, was prepared to take over our work. The takeover took place recently and we've been helping with the transition. You can find out more by pasting this link into your browser:

www.learningcurve.org.uk/Aboutus/News/u2join

Den is planning a farewell event at the Platform in Swindon on Saturday 31 July between 2pm and 4pm. We're going to be allowed to use the railway carriage! Invites will be sent out this week and we hope that most of the dads will be able to attend as it may be the last time we can all get together.

And one more

Congratulations to Dave and Hannah on the recent arrival of Layton.

Layton weighed in at 9lbs 7ozs. Ouch!!

Three new arrivals

Young men who have taken U-Too's course for young fathers-to-be have recently become fathers.

Here's Nick and Jade with Keira, Stuart with Sapphire, a sister for Jessica, and Bradley and Paige with Liam. Both Jade and Paige had attended our young mums-to-be course. Good luck to all of them!

Centre for Social Justice

There's a geat photo of Brett, April and the kids on the CSJ's website at http://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/default.asp?pageref=446 It illustrates an article a CSJ seminar in London taking place on Friday where I'll be talking about our work.

Silver Arts Award

Brett, Lisa and JJ had their last session with Madeleine at Create's studio in the Wyvern Theatre yesterday. So their photography Arts challenge is nearly finished. Den, Mark and Steven have made good progress with their music Arts challenge and the tracks for their CDs have been laid down. Dienka is busy sorting ot the next bit of the Award and we hope everyone will have finished by July. There's already talk of going for Gold!

The General Election

Difficult to believe, but here's the Prime Minister in U-Too's teaching room at the Drove Children's Centre in Swindon this afternoon, talking to one of the young mums who has completed the YMTB course. He had asked to meet the current group of young mums-to-be and spoke to Lesley, the group's tutor, and to Carolyn. So altho' this is not strictly a dads' item, it looks as if the work of U-Too, and sister organisations, have an impact at a national level. And, although it is easy to be cynical about what might be construed as a typical photo-opp, he appeared to be genuinely interested in our work. Not that you'd have seen any of this if you watched tonight's news bulletins.

Who Needs Fathers?

Some of us might thing the answer to this question is obvious. But tonight sees the first of three documentaries on BBC2 about the effect on children of their parents' divorce. It will be interesting to see how the programmes answer the question.

BBC Switch

We received the following email from a BBC journalist who had interviewed Johnny and Charmaine last week.

Just to let you know that Charmaine and Jonny were on Newsbeat on Radio 1 this (Tuesday 23rd) lunchtime http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/b006wkry

...and also on our website http://www.bbc.co.uk/switch/revealed/?story=sextalk

and on BBC Breakfast too! They did really well. And Harmony looked lovely

Being technologically challenged I've no idea whether these clips can still be seen, but it might be worth a look.

Two new arrivals

Wednesday saw the arrival of two 'U-Too' babies. Ellie was born at 6.30 am, 8lbs 5ozs. So congratulations to Laura and Chris. Then Paige arrived a month early at 5lbs 1oz. So Max now has a little sister and Den and Lisa are going to have their hands full!

Ellie had to go back into hospital on Friday because she was jaundiced. Laura stayed in overnight with her but, although she was fortunate enough to have a room to herself, Chris was not allowed to stay with her. They found his exclusion very upsetting but, of course, there was nothing they could do about it. It's another example of the way in which young fathers are excluded at crucial times by health service professionals, and an illustration of how far we still have to go to make such services fully inclusive.

The Psychologist

Last year nearly 20 U-Too young dads completed a questionnaire about their lives and I wrote a paper which has finally appeared in this month's edition of The Psychologist. Details can be found on The Fatherhood Institute website at:
http://www.fatherhoodinstitute.org/index.php?id=13&cID=1071

or on The Psychologist's website at:
http://www.thepsychologist.org.uk/

More U-Too material can also be found on the FI website at:

http://www.fatherhoodinstitute.org/index.php?search=1&id=0&keyword=u-too&imageField.x=11&imageField.y=14

Sex and culture - worth talking about

This was the title of the event held in Exeter yesterday, organised by the Government Office South West. Mike, Den and Lisa presented a case study based on Dads Matter Too and the Arts Award. Needless to say, Den and Lisa stole the show! Here is some of the feedback they received:

"Really enjoyed hearing your heartfelt comments about the projects and what you got out of them. Some great messages to take back to my own area when trying to sell them the idea of developing similar projects locally. Good luck to you both and THANKS!”

“Well articulated, clear points. You have done a superb job of describing your project and the outcomes you have as a result”

“It was so good to hear Den & Lisa speak so fluently and reflectively about their experiences. A real boost to the event.

Mike wrestles with the mike
Den writes a receipt
Den and Lisa with their photos

Max is a star

The next generation is on its way. Max was given his teacher's Special Award last Thursday. Den and Lisa are suitably proud!

Trowbridge has three firsts

Congratulations to Charmaine and Johnny on the birth of Harmony who weighed in at 5lbs 11ozs after an uncomfortably long labour. Johnny was pleased to learn that Harmony's APGAR was 9, which he knew from the young dads-to-be course meant that she was fine.

And congratulations too to Chris, Laura, Steve and Charmaine (and Ashton) who have started working on our level 2 'effective parenting' course. This is the first time that any young dads, let alone couples, have worked on this course and we're looking forward to working together over the next few months.

And more congratulations, this time to Will and Aurora, who have both attended a Red Cross Infant & Child First Aid workshop at Studley Green Children's Centre recently and now have certificates to prove it.