It’s been a while since my last post, mainly because I wanted the news about our course to be seen as soon as visitors opened our link. But stuff HAS been happening. A couple of agencies have already acquired the licence to use the course and others are interested. And at the beginning of November Carolyn and I went to the first Men and Boys Conference in Brighton. We put some U-Too news on display boards, gave a talk about the course and met old friends, including Melvyn Davies, who John will remember, and Rob Williams from the Fatherhood Institute, who Den has met.
Friday, 11 November 2011
Men and Boys Conference
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Monday, 7 March 2011
"Preparation for Fatherhood" course
There are few programmes to help young fathers-to-be, although Graham Allen made the point that ‘Health and early years services need to do more to ensure that expectant mother and fathers are offered high-quality community-based preparation for parenthood that includes learning about the needs of babies during pregnancy and early life and how to make the successful transition to parenthood.’
U-Too, a 2010 CSJ poverty-fighting Award winner runs such programmes to help young fathers-to-be. It used the Award money to fund a rewrite of their course so that it could gain accreditation and be made available to other agencies that would then be eligible for funding. Although they completed the rewrite using National Open College Network’s Progression Units, the current restructuring of acceptable qualifications might mean that the Units used are no longer available. If this is the case, they will fail to receive accreditation. Smaller organisations who are trying to establish the validity of a programme and have designed it according to recognised tenets, may still struggle to obtain the necessary accreditation for a variety of reasons that have nothing to do with programme effectiveness.
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Saturday, 19 February 2011
Young dads-to-be course
Carolyn and I met with Valerie Hall on Monday. Valerie is a Quality Reviewer for the National Open College Network (NOCN). Valerie confirmed that the course we've rewritten is at the upper end of the requirements for a Level 1 Award, which is good news. Even better is that she thought it's user friendly, not patronising, and gives participants ownership of their own learning. Best of all, Den and Mark feel quite envious of anyone who does the new course because they both wish they could have done it instead of our original version!
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Tuesday, 15 February 2011
Silver Stars
Jenny, Lisa Den and Steven were presented with their Silver Arts Award certificates by the Mayor of Swindon, Cllr Rex Barnett, at last Tuesday's Presentation Evening at The Platform. This represents a considerable achievement for all four, but especially for Den and Lisa, both of whom had left school with no GCSEs. So it's a reminder that, given the right circumstances and support, young people from their background can achieve remarkable success.
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Tuesday, 1 February 2011
Silver Arts Award
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Saturday, 22 January 2011
Early Intervention: The Next Steps
Graham Allen's review was published this week. It can be found at:
http://www.dwp.gov.uk/docs/early-intervention-next-steps.pdf
We made our own contribution to it and it was good to see the following sentence on page 48
"Health and early years services need to do more to ensure that expectant mothers and fathers are offered high-quality community-based preparation for parenthood that includes learning about the needs of babies during pregnancy and early life and how to make the successful transition to parenthood."
At last there is recognition that expectant fathers, as well as expectant mothers, should be offered some means of preparation for fatherhood. Perhaps our new course can become part of that provision. But the fact that the word 'father' appeared nearly EIGHT times less frequently than the word 'mother' suggests that policy makers still have some way to go.
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Tuesday, 18 January 2011
A big day for dads
It's all happening today. An article appeared in The Times this morning. Entitled "The reality of being a teenage dad" by Elizabeth McFarlane, it has an almost accurate quote of mine. You can find the article at http://www.thetimes.co.uk/tto/life/relationships/article2875431.ece but to read it you'll have to subscribe for £1, then unsubscribe!
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Thursday, 13 January 2011
Dads Matter Too
At last. I've finished the course rewrite. I'll be taking it round to check out what people think about it. If any of you read this, put it out on Facebook cos I know more of you use that than the blog. Ta!
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Friday, 3 December 2010
Independent Review on Poverty and Life Chances
Some time ago we were asked to make a submission to Frank Field's Review, which has just been published, and can be found at this link:
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Saturday, 27 November 2010
Dad Academy focus group
Fifteen of us met at the Methodist International Centre on Thursday. Most came from London but we weren't the only provincials. Nor was Den the only young dad. The meeting started with a general discussion about what it means to be a dad and went on to identify great ideas for groups of local fathers to do with their children. Den talked about his experience of Story Sacks in Swindon and it was humbling to hear about the wide range of other really creative projects that were going on elsewhere in the UK. Of particular interest to us was the baby massage programme in Lewisham where dads are being trained to run sessions for other dads, the comprehensive Dangerous Dads activities programme which has been developed in Devon, and the use of film animation in Birmingham. There's so much good stuff going on.
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Tuesday, 23 November 2010
The Fatherhood Institute
We've been asked to take part in a Fatherhood Institute meeting in London on Thursday. Den and I will be going and we'll report what happens.
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Saturday, 30 October 2010
More Arts Award stuff
The following info has come from Create:
Well done you guys!
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Friday, 29 October 2010
Dads AND Mums do great
I've just heard from Dienka that Den, Lisa, Steven and Jenny have all achieved their Silver Arts Award, and Mark may complete next month. This really is fantastic as it's equivalent to a GCSE A-C pass. And for young people whose school careers were less than wonderful, it's a reminder of just what they're capable of. More details to follow.
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Sunday, 10 October 2010
Silver Arts Award
Arts Award Event Review
By Steven Matthews
On Saturday July 31st at 2pm an enthusiastic group of young fathers and mothers began to arrive at the Platform Youth Centre in Swindon.
They came from all different locations including Salisbury, Melksham, Paignton and Swindon.
They were here to hold an event, which many had organised as part of their Silver Arts Award.
The event was also being used to celebrate the successes of a young fathers group called Dads Matter Too which was set up a few years ago by founders Mike and Carolyn White, who were due to retire soon after the event.
The group of young fathers along with their tutor Mike had enjoyed recognition for their efforts, locally and nationally which included guest spots on various radio stations and the BBC Breakfast Show and even won two awards for their impact in the media and within communities.
The event took place inside a kitted out train carriage, which had been installed within the centre.
On entering it was clear that the five arts students had planned the event in great detail and seemed well organised.
They had even prepared a wide selection of food and drink for the event.
While waiting for attendees to arrive the room was filled with anticipation and excitement as many were deep in conversation, catching up with old friends and associates.
Once everyone had arrived the students made a few last minute checks then the event was underway.
It started with an introduction and a warm welcome before making preferences to the group, its achievements and detailing the agenda for the event.
Two photography students took their places ready to take photos of the event as another student took to the stage to perform a rap, which he had written for Mike, in recognition to the dedication, help and support he had provided for the group over the years.
The performance was followed by applause before the next act stepped up to perform.
After giving a short introduction a poem was read by one of the students, which he had written about his interpretation of the ongoing war.
He then finished his performance with a bow and rejoined the applauding group.
There was then a heartfelt speech from tutor Mike, who was honoured by the event and performances and reflected on the positive influence the young fathers group has had around the country.
The event then concluded with a group picture and a ‘thank you’ speech from some of the group and a display of photography and lyrics from the arts course.
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Sunday, 26 September 2010
Rhyme Time
Den wrote his 'Dad Rap' for Dads Matter Too over two years ago and has continued to write material, currently for his Silver Arts Award. Steven has been writing poetry for an even longer period of time, and even had one of them published. He has just written a new poem, which he has entered in the Calne Music & Arts Festival Poetry Competition.
A Thousand Soldiers
Another U-Too dad has recently written some very personal poems so would prefer to stay anonymous, However he has also entered two of them in the CMAF competition and would like to share them with readers of this blog.
Many years on, not a lot has changed,
The time I don't see you still remains the same,
In a lot of ways I feel slightly deranged,
And in a lot of ways, I feel that you're to blame.
My memories are vague, few and far between,
Yet the fact remains the same, how absent you have been,
You escaped your responsibility, I find it obscene,
How you've kept the lack of contact, you washed your hands clean.
But was it me to blame? Is it me at fault?
I was just a child, and you were an adult,
How many times at night, I've woken with a jolt,
With fear, remorse and sadness, wishing my thoughts would halt.
I barely even know you, I'm not sure that I want to,
The pain that you've inflicted hurts more than it should do,
After all this time, I hardly care about you,
And all the time I'm wondering, is this the way you feel too?
Mother
The one person I've known my whole life through,
Who knows me better than any could do,
And yet how I realise I barely know you,
We don't talk often enough.
I find it so hard, I'm not quite sure why,
To talk to you more, as hard as I try,
But you don't complain, so neither do I,
Although this is how I feel.
I know for a fact that I'll look back one day,
And wish that we'd talked loads more, day to day,
As I beg for the anguish to just fade away,
That's not what I want for myself.
You've done all you can, when raising me,
To help me become all I can be,
I'll make you proud, just wait and see,
For everything you've done, I thank you.
Then
Evening sets upon us, as we argue the toss,
I'm not quite sure what I've done, to make you so cross.
I loved everything about you once, but now we just despise,
We square up to each other, the anger in your eyes,
You spit at me, I hit you, and then I want to cry,
I've over stepped the mark, and I don't understand why.
The jealousy of things that the other gets to do,
The thought of you enjoying time makes me angry at you,
I look at how I'm thinking and I think "I don't mean to".
But there's nothing I can do and nothing I can say,
I try to apologise, but you're walking away,
We argue just a little more, then sleep 'til break of day.
We wake up nice and early, both of us in a mood,
We talk about it quietly, as we both have some food,
We both decide to let it slide, 'til it happens again,
The hassle we could have avoided, if we'd ended it then...
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